5 Ways to Believe in Yourself When You’ve Been Criticised

Criticism can sting deeply especially when you’re trying to grow, heal, or step into a new chapter of your life. It’s natural to feel shaken, doubting your abilities or worth when others point out your flaws or mistakes. But here’s the truth: criticism doesn’t have to define you or stop you from believing in yourself.

If you’ve struggled with self-doubt after being criticised, you’re not alone. Here are five ways to rebuild your confidence and keep moving forward with courage and self-compassion.

1. Recognise That Criticism Is About The Other Person, Not You

When someone criticises you, it often reflects their own perspective, fears, or misunderstandings. It’s easy to take criticism personally but remember that their words don’t define your value or potential.

Try to separate the useful feedback from the emotional charge. If there’s something helpful, take it on board gently. If not, let it go. Your worth isn’t tied to others’ opinions.

2. Use “Micro Proof” to Build Self Trust

After criticism, your brain wants to protect you by telling you not to try or risk. This is a survival response, not a truth.

Counter this by collecting “micro proofs” daily which could be small wins that prove to yourself you can move forward. It might be as simple as speaking up in a meeting, finishing a task, or practising a skill.

In the notes on your phone or in your journal, write down one small action you took each day. Over time, these add up and rebuild your belief in your own abilities.

3. Practise Self Compassion Like You Would for a Friend

We’re often harsher on ourselves than we are on others. If a friend came to you after being criticised, you’d likely offer kindness and encouragement.

Try to extend that same compassion inward. Notice your inner critic but don’t engage it. Speak to yourself with kindness and patience, reminding yourself that everyone makes mistakes and learning takes time.

4. Reframe Frustration as a Sign of Growth

Feeling stuck, frustrated, or not good enough can feel like failure, but it’s actually a sign you’re pushing your boundaries and growing.

When criticism triggers frustration, ask yourself: what’s this experience teaching me? What’s the next smallest step I can take? Shift your mindset from judgment to curiosity and progress.

5. Decide to Believe in Yourself Every Day

Belief in yourself isn’t always a feeling, it’s a decision. You might not feel confident all the time, and that’s okay.

Commit to believing in your potential and your capacity to grow, even when the feelings aren’t there yet. Like planting a seed, your belief needs watering with consistent daily actions, patience, and faith.

Final Thoughts

Believing in yourself after criticism can be challenging, but it’s one of the most empowering gifts you can give yourself. Remember that your journey is unique, and each step forward is progress.

If you want personalised support on building authentic self-confidence and healing from past criticisms, I offer private coaching sessions tailored to your needs. You can also join my weekly YouTube live sessions for ongoing guidance and inspiration.

You’re stronger than you think and you deserve to believe it every single day.

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Iona x